I was out training one of my clients early in the morning when I ended up in one of those conversations you don't see coming.

After the session wrapped up, a friend of mine and I started just talking. What started as casual catching up got pretty vulnerable pretty fast — the kind of conversation where the friendship deepens in real time.

We ended up on the topic of relationships. The struggle with the flesh. Getting in our own heads. Dating. Trying to identify the right person based on who God puts in your path rather than who you're attracted to in the moment.

And somewhere in that conversation I realized something I genuinely hadn't considered before — men and women have a lot more in common in this area than we think. The same struggles. The same patterns. The same pull toward things that fill a void instead of filling it the right way.

She shared that she writes letters to her future husband. To God. Gets vulnerable on the page even when it doesn't make sense. Even when it feels one-sided.

And I felt led right then and there — not only to do that for my future wife, but for my future daughter too. To start opening up and being transparent in a way that builds something before I even know who they are yet.

But here's where it got convicting for me.

While I was talking about falling into the same sin — fanning the fire through how I text, doing things to fill a void — I started talking about how I objectify women. The way it starts small. The way it feels justified in the moment. The way it quietly becomes a pattern before you even realize it.

And then I shared something that happened at the Virginia Beach event.

A little girl came up to the Raw Faith table around 7 years old. And something in that moment just stopped me. I looked at her and I thought — I need to be and do better. Not just for my future wife. But for my future daughter. Because the way I look at women right now is not the example I want to set for a daughter I haven't even met yet.

That hit different.

I know I struggle particularly in this season. Fall 2026. God has big plans — I can feel it. The businesses are starting to grow. He's teaching me how to steward what I have. This is going to be a season of learning to be free from lust. Not just managing it. Actually walking in freedom from it.

But I also know that the enemy doesn't sleep, especially when God is positioning you for something bigger. The closer you get to the assignment, the louder the distractions get.

I'm writing this not because I have it figured out. I'm writing this because I committed a long time ago to being honest with y'all about where I actually am. And right now I'm in the middle of it — disciplining my walk, getting into a routine, reading the Word, stretching my prayer life, and learning what it actually means to be still.

That last one is the hardest one for me. Being still.

And if you're reading this and you're in the same battle — whether you're a man or a woman — I want you to know you're not alone in it. We don't talk about this enough in Christian spaces because it's uncomfortable. Because it exposes something we'd rather keep private.

Vulnerability creates strength. That's always been the heartbeat of Raw Faith. And that starts with being honest about the thing you're most tempted to hide.