God’s Still Working on Me: Overcoming Old Habits Through His Love

"I’m far from perfect, but I know God’s not done with me yet."

If I’m being real, relationships have always been a struggle for me. Not the surface-level stuff—that’s easy. I’m talking about real commitment, leading with Christ, and respecting women as more than just a means to boost my ego. For a long time, I didn’t think about it that way. I was caught up in flings that looked like relationships on the outside but had no depth, no strings, no accountability.

Then, not too long ago, I met someone on Hinge who made me see things differently. She respected my beliefs, and I respected her walk with Christ, too. For a while, it felt like we were building something real. But when it came time for me to step up and lead with Christ at the center, I hesitated. I was scared—scared of what that kind of relationship would look like and scared of messing it up.

After almost a year, we ended things. And to be honest, it wasn’t just about the relationship ending—it was about what it revealed in me.

Facing the Truth About Myself
Even now, I still catch myself falling back into old habits. I’ll hop on Hinge, swipe around like it’s a game, and chase validation through matches without ever having the intention to engage. It’s not about connection—it’s about control, and it’s about feeding something inside me that’s still broken.

I’m not proud of it, but I’m sharing this because I know I’m not the only one. Whether it’s relationships, habits, or even just our mindset, we all have things we’re working on—things God’s working on in us.

Philippians 1:6 says: “He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion.” That’s my lifeline right now. God started something in me, and even though I’m not where I want to be, I know He’s not finished yet.

Learning to See God’s Love
What I’m starting to understand is that this isn’t just about how I see women—it’s about how I see myself. For so long, I’ve looked for validation in all the wrong places, trying to fill something that only God’s love can satisfy.

God’s love isn’t earned. It’s not about matches, achievements, or proving yourself. It’s unconditional, constant, and patient—even when I’m not. The more I lean into that truth, the more I realize that the way I treat others—especially women—reflects how I see His love working in me.

Progress, Not Perfection
Let me be real with you—I’m still struggling. There are days I feel like I’m growing, and then there are days I fall right back into old patterns. But I’m learning that growth doesn’t mean never messing up. It means recognizing when I do, taking accountability, and letting God’s grace pick me back up.

That’s what the God’s Still Working On Me Collection is all about. It’s a reminder for those of us who are in the middle of the mess, trusting that God is shaping us, even when it feels like we’re moving two steps forward and one step back.

If you’re like me, and you’re struggling with something you wish you had a handle on by now, know this: you’re not alone. We’re all works in progress, and God’s not giving up on us.

Wear this collection as a reminder that your story’s not over yet. God’s still working, and His plan for you is better than anything you could imagine. “He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.” – Philippians 1:6

We’re getting better—one day at a time.